5 Ways to Mend Your Heart After a Painful Breakup

Love is a big word. It consumes not just your heart but your whole soul. Falling in love is one of the best feelings a person can experience in his or her life. The feeling of being in love, of having someone to care about, of having that one special person to talk to right before you end your day is simply amazing.

However, a lot of relationships has an end, and many of these end in a devastating way – the kind of break up that breaks not just your heart but your whole being, the kind of ending that leaves you completely broken. You find yourself asking how you will pick up the pieces after he/she left you hanging. To help you heal and finally moved on, here are 5 ways to help mend your heart after a painful heartache:

1. Forgive Yourself – Forgive Your Ex

Forgiving oneself is a significant milestone to mend a broken heart. Forgive yourself for the things that you have done when you are still in the relationship. Forgive yourself for not doing the things you should have done when you still have the chance. Also, forgive your ex, forgive him/her for the things that he/she has fail to do. Forgive your ex-lover for the things that he/she has done. Simply forgive, because forgiveness is the only thing that can set you free.

2. Acceptance is the Key

After you forgive yourself and your ex-lover, you are now ready to face the new chapter of your life. Acceptance is the next chance you can give yourself. Accept that things happen for a reason – that despite the pain that you’ve been through, it is all part of God’s plan for making you ready for the wonderful things that are yet to come. Accept that breaking up is not an end but a beginning of a new part of your life. Accept the fact that when something ends up, there is always something good that is bound to start. Just accept, and slowly you feel that the pain is finally slowly fading away.

3. Let Go of the Memories, But Retain the Lessons

Letting go is sometimes the bravest way one can do after a painful breakup. Let go of the idea that there is still you and him or you and her. Let go of all your memories, stop holding on to the things that only hurts you again and again. You can try to distance yourself from the places, music, or anything that reminds you of all your good old memories together. But always remember, that you can let go of everything you have left that hurt you, but never ever let go of the lessons that you learned along the way. Never let go of the things that helped you become tougher and stronger. Never let go of the things that will remind you of what you’ve become after overcoming it all.

4. Too Much Isolation is Dangerous

Solitude is good, but too much of it is not. Yes – it is nice to have a time alone with yourself –to mend, to think things over, to heal what’s wounded and to fix what’s broken, but spending too much time alone is not healthy. Do not feed your mind with self-pity, do not feed yourself with too much loneliness. Go out with your friends, hang out, have fun and laugh hard the way you laughed before having your heart broken. Do the things that you find satisfaction with, do the things that will make you happy again, do the things that will save you from thinking too much of the pain. You can isolate yourself but then again, too much isolation is a no-no.

5. Give Yourself the Luxury of Time

They say that time heals all wounds – and yes, by all it means all kinds of pain even the one that the heart endures. Like all things in life, time takes away the pain. It helps you move forward, it helps you take things the way they should fall into place. Never rush in having a new love, never rush in making decisions you might regret someday. Never rush into something you know you will surely be desperate to take back when the time comes. Just feel the moment, let time heal the pain. Let time give you the moment to become stronger and tougher after the pain. Let time do its way and help you mend your way.